Yesterday my baby celebrated his twelfth birthday, how can this be. This sweet, gentle and kind boy was just a baby. EVERY year, on his actual birthday, the day is his to pick the activities, dinner and desert. NOT THIS YEAR!
This year, I had parent teacher conferences that went until 8 at night. How was it possible that I was going to miss out on his special day? I was in utter disbelief that I would miss out on this very special occasion. I helped with the strategic planning of drop offs and pick up for the evening. Again, usually the focus is just on him and nothing else. But as it goes, the still had places to be: 5:15-6:30: Religious Education (Child one) - Grandma will manage 5:30-7:00 - Baseball practice (Child two) - Dad will manage 8:00-9:00 - Basketball practice (Child two) - Dad or Grandma will manage Somewhere in between Grandma and Dad will either switch kids or try to find a place to have a dessert to celebrate this special boy. I will just spoil him with my love after I get home from conferences. It the splash of a moment, baseball practice was cancelled. That was the one thing we didn't want to cancel, but Mother Nature had a different plan. (Thank goodness!) As soon I got the text, I called my boys to tell them I was calling them in for the other activities! I had them call their dad to let him know there was a new plan. I wasn't a part of the dinner, VR place they hung out at or the TCBY dessert, but he still had his special day with fun activities that he helped pick. He still had his dad, brother and my mom, the people who mean the most to him sharing his special day. When I got home, they waited to have cake and sing to that he could have all of us together, brought me some TCBY (with my favorite toppings) and shared with me all the fun things they did to celebrate him. This sweet young man, reminded me how it was ok. He knew I was sad I couldn't be with him. He already planned what he wanted to do with just me to so that he and I could celebrate on a different day. So in the end, I didn't really miss out. It was just postponed....
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sally
3/15/2019 08:53:05 am
The tension you create in your story so the strong bond between mother and child. Finally at 12, he can rearrange so you don't miss out. Lovely post.
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Shelly
3/15/2019 09:28:09 am
Thank you, he is a sweet boy!
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Lisa Goldman
3/15/2019 06:29:29 pm
Kudos to you for finding the silver lining. I can relate as my son's birthday fell on our 12 hour day last year and I was so heartbroken. If/when it happens again, I will look at it through your rose colored glasses!
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Teri Keys
3/15/2019 06:40:02 pm
You make things so special for your boys. He will enjoy any celebration with you. Happy birthday to Lucas.
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